Children of Hoarders is a dedicated blog, written in support of children who are fighting to get their parents out of a life threatening situation. At HoarderHomes.com our mission is to help communities, children of hoarder to move on with their lives.
Harper Lee, author of “To Kill a Mockingbird” once quoted, “You can choose your friends but you sho’ cant choose your family, an’ they’re still kin to you no matter whether you acknowledge ‘em or not, and it makes you look right silly when you don’t.” After writing blogs around heirs dealing with estates, children of hoarders started to surface with so much to tell; so much pain and embarrassment because they aren’t able to control their present living conditions.
Children of hoarders live desperately challenging childhoods because they often don’t like where they live. Moslow’s hierarchy of needs names physiological needs as the primary driver in a person’s motivation to live and if these children don’t have this need met how much do they struggle? Some children can’t even enter their homes because their mother or father are serious hoarders and have things piled up in every room from floor to ceiling.
Their bedrooms are usually a mess; not because of them, but because their parent uses their room for their never ending storage requirements. The bed is the only thing visible, with ruffled sheets that stink of body odor or urine or feces from the large number of stray animals wandering throughout the house. Forget the desk where homework gets done; there isn’t any clear space in the house! Sleepovers are a huge NO because of the sheer embarrassment and the fear of being the subject of name calling and bullies at school.
Unfortunately, the hoarding parent does not see the negative effect they have on their child(ren). They need to keep hoarding because their mind tells them that is what they have to do. In recent years, hoarding has been declared a mental health disorder, affecting 2% to 5% of the US Population. Often times hoarders are lost in how to handle their lifestyle because their living conditions are so bad. Most risk fires, slip and falls, and an influx of pests; fleas, mosquitoes, rats and mice run wild, not only affecting them but the surrounding neighborhood. For these reasons and more, the health of the inhabitants is at risk.
911 for Children of Hoarders
Children of hoarders have options to get help but understandably it is hard to call law enforcement on your parent, knowing that there could be jail time or fines involved. So children avoid calling. When they grow up and leave home, not surprisingly, they tend to create a spotless living environment for themselves or some revert to being hoarders themselves as they don’t know any better.
This blog addresses more loving, caring and constructive options for the children of hoarders. Get in touch with hoarderhomes.com, so that the house can be sold for cash. Why is this important? Children of hoarders want to see their parent(s) get the help they need, perhaps from a therapist, psychiatrist or hoarding mental health expert. Cashing out with hoarderhomes.com has so many life changing and positive outcomes:
1. HoarderHomes.com buys the house “AS-IS” : meaning, as distressed as it, as cluttered or hoarded as it is, you do ZERO cleaning;, simply pack the essentials and get the parent into an assisted living facility or rehab center.
2. Use the cash to save for the future. When mom or dad are healthy again, invest in a new property for them, but set rules, monitor them and if need be keep the therapist involved till you see a change.
We welcome calls from the children of hoarders any time; we are focused on buying hoarded homes in Southern California and will provide you with an estimated cash buying price. We can help; just complete this form HERE and make a start….